Forget “New Year, New Me” and Try a New Mindset

We’ve seen it all over social media. I swear, everyone and their dog has tweeted “new year, new me.”

Well, unless you undergo extensive plastic surgery and somehow get all new chromosomes, a new you is pretty impossible. At the end of the day, it’s not you who is changing in your attempts to become the “ideal you” when attempting your New Years Resolutions. So, save the tweet and go do something about it by changing your mindset.

no new year new meEveryone always talks about their New Years Resolutions – and by the line of people waiting to sign up for a gym membership this morning, I can tell people are jumping on the bandwagon of starting this “new them.” Want to know the difference between the people who will last a week at the gym and will last until 2016? Who changed their mindset and who did not.

I don’t believe in creating a new me, but instead creating a list of new journeys I want to take on and embrace the journeys of the year ahead. I don’t believe in needing a “new me,” but a new mindset to help me accomplish what I want to.

Change your mindset that it is okay to say goodbye to what is unnecessary. Want to keep all the drama and B-S of 2014 in the past? Delete all your text messages. Purge all those unneeded, and unwanted, cell phone contacts first.

Before today, I had over 500 contacts. In reality, do I need my lab partner from ninth grade biology, that random girl my little and I met one night and swore we were going to be best friends with, or that total random from the club? Nope. Delete, delete, and definite delete.

Now, I will make it a habit to delete my text messages on the regular and delete contacts when they are unnecessary. To continue on with this changed mindset, I am also donating all clothes that I haven’t worn in over a year from my closet.

Change your mindset that is okay to indulge, whether it be in the kitchen or in the wallet – you work your hardest, so you deserve a splurge once in a while! Want to work towards your dream body? Realize that most of working out is a mindset in itself. First off, you need to workout. Go to the gym, find a workout class that you love, or find a Pinterest workout that you can do right at home (check out my “Fitness Finds” Pinterest board for ideas). Second you need to eat healthy. However, it seems that when people make it a New Years Resolution to loose weight, they quickly put all their worth on the number the scale says. You are more than this number, so if you want to eat that doughnut or piece of chocolate- go for it. If you’ve been working hard in the gym and in the kitchen, that one piece of junk food isn’t going to deter you completely from your goals.

For me, I love going to workout classes, like Zumba and kickboxing, and keep them interesting by going with friends and sorority sisters. I also try to eat healthy, especially since my body acts funky if I do not thanks to not having a gall bladder. However, I let myself know that it’s okay to eat that cupcake. The thing is, I’ve learned to know that my will power will never not let me eat the cupcake. I can plan to eat like a Victoria’s Secret model all I want, but put a red velvet cupcake in my vision and I am D-O-N-E. However, I’ve learned that it’s okay to indulge. One just needs to know that there is a limit – eat the dessert three times a week, or even have one day of eating whatever you want. It’s when you start to eat whatever you want everyday that you’ve changed the indulgence into a habit, and you’ve lost that mindset.

Change your mindset that you need to live in the moment, but still plan ahead. Make it your mindset to find a happy medium between the two. Yes, I do plan ahead when it comes to events and my planner. However, everyday can become a shopping spree – and that is not thinking ahead. I’m not a Chrisley, so I can’t just swipe a credit card and call it a day. I need to think about the future when it comes to my spending habits.

For me, my biggest mindset in 2015 is focusing on my wallet. I relate a little too much to “Confessions of a Shopaholic,” something my bank account isn’t always a fan of. I’ve downloaded apps to keep myself on track with my paychecks and put myself on a budget. (Gosh, I hate that “b” word).  I turn 21 soon, so I know I’m going to want to go on a lot more adventures then. So do I truly need that shirt that I just have to have? Do I really need to get a fourth coffee this week from Dunkin? Do I really need to get that newest beauty product that I’m going to try once and then dump into a drawer? No, no, and no. I’m changing my mindset of finding a happy medium, so when I’m 21 in 2 months I can have the experiences I really want!

What are some mindsets that you want to work on during 2015? Comment below and let me know!

Remember to embrace the journey that is 2015 because life won’t sparkle unless you do!

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Hello, 2015! I’m Coming for You!

Happy New Year, my sparkling readers!

With 2015 already underway, I’ve been writing down many, many post ideas in my Victoria Secret notepad. As with life, you learn more and more with blogging as the time goes by. With almost a year and a half under my belt, I can safely say that these ideas are some of my best yet. It’s time for “Sparkle and Shine” to become your go to guide, to all things to help your life sparkle! That means more beauty posts, fashion posts (I have my first Outfit of the Day post planned out), and more. I’m on a mission to not only have my life sparkle, but to help add some sparkle to yours!

2015 is already starting out on the right foot for me, adding a lot of sparkle to my life! In 2014, I received the amazing opportunity to earn a contract with the one and only Seventeen as a member of their Social Club. For years, I have scrolled through the pages of the magazine learning about beauty hints, fashion go-tos and faux pas, and more. Now, it was my turn to learn more and help decide on beauty picks, fashion picks, and more for the glossy pages of the magazine. At the end of the year, the magazine asked me to renew my contract! I am too lucky to start this new year working for my favorite magazine yet again.

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Also, If you haven’t already noticed, “Sparkle and Shine” got a makeover. New year, new you is the mantra all over CVS, which I am constantly staring at as I stock the newest beauty products. Well, it’s new year, new blog, too! I chugged a medium iced caramel swirl with skim one night, downloaded Photoshop, and went to town teaching myself the ins and outs of the Adobe program. As the hours ticked by, I ended the six hour night with a new header, new background, new meet me photo, and a new signature! The concept that “Life won’t sparkle unless you do,” readers, is still threaded throughout the new layout.

2015 is going to sparkle – for you and me! Stay with me in on the wild ride!

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Through the Eyes of a College Sophomore: The 12 things I learned in the 12 months of 2013

I can’t believe 2013 is already over.

I know that it’s been over for about a week now, but I have been working on this for so long, and so hard, to come up with the perfect lessons that I have realized and that could really summarize life as a 19 year old.

So here they are – what I learned in 2013!

1. January – Keep on dreaming!

My parents taught me to always dream, believe in my dreams, and work towards them. My biggest dream is to be an NBC broadcaster. In January of 2013, some of my college best friends and I went to the beautiful New York City (which you all know from this post!) I made my friends wake up super early, so we can be there to see them shoot part of “The Today Show.” My friends are so supportive of me, so they were there super early with me to watch the show be filmed. They even snapped this (candid) pic of me day dreaming into the studio. No matter what, I will keep my dreams alive in my heart because I believe one day, I will reach them!

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2. February – You can ALWAYS make the best of ANY situation!

Connecticut found Nemo during February, resulting in no class for week at Quinnipiac. Instead of thinking of the negatives of one of the worst snow storms we have ever seen, my best friends and I all made the best of it. We had snowball fights, movie marathons, and even dug some igloos. We may have even Pamed up a cookie sheet to try and go sledding…which may or may not have ended badly. Either way, with the right people around you, you can always make the best of any situation! Keep to the positives and the situation itself will be positive.

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3. March – Seize every opportunity possible, not only because of what you can get out of it, but it creates incredible memories.

In life, I have realized I don’t want to just sit back as an 80 year old woman and re-call worthless memories. I want to look back on my life and tell of all of the incredible experiences I have had. You can’t take anything for granted, so you must seize opportunities. In March, I attended a college journalism conference. There, NBC host Willie Geist, spoke to us college aged journalists. NBC is my dream job, as I mentioned earlier, so when Mr. Geist asked if anyone had any questions, I immediately came up with something (I honestly can’t even remember it because I was so star struck when I go onto the microphone to introduce myself and ask him). As soon as I was done, I also wanted to meet him. My sister, Nikki, who also asked a question, also wanted to meet him. So, when he was walking off the stage, we just simply ASKED him. Next thing we knew, we had not only a (dark) picture, but a line of people behind us. I proudly will admit that I seized the opportunity to ask one of my journalism heroes a question AND get a picture with him!

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4. April – Show your school pride – because you won’t always be in college.  

When you’re 35 years old, it isn’t socially acceptable to be sporting your college’s tee shirt, rioting, and screaming your pride to be whatever animal your school is. You’ll just be given the odd glances and eye rolls deeming you to be stuck in your college years. However, you still are in your college years! Cheer for your school, wear your school colors, hey, paint your face or even your body. Quinnipiac went to the finals for the Frozen Four last year, where our whole campus came together to cheer on our school. Once you graduate college, you’re in something called “the real world” (yuck.) So get all your school pride out while you’re still in college. For Quinnipiac, that even results in a riot or two. #bobcatpride

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5. May – Cross things off your bucket list, no matter how “unlike you” it may be.

So, I’ve always wanted to go fishing. Yes, me – the girl who only likes the outdoors if she’s at the beach and is scared of any animal that she doesn’t consider “cute.” Yet, for some reason, I’ve always wanted go fishing. ANY boy, even family members, would NEVER take me for as long as I can remember, claiming I was going to be “too loud” for the fish or some other excuse they could come up with. My best friend Connor finally took me fishing! We had to climb through woods (which included a lot of rocks,trees, and bugs-oh my!), but finally got to his special fishing spot. Before I knew it, I had cast my line into the water and I was catching fish. Don’t just create a bucket list – but accomplish what is on it. There will be no better feeling to be able to cross it off your list. Don’t be afraid, no matter how “unlike you,” it may be – because hey, I’m a fishing natural, according to Connor!

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6. June – Real friendship doesn’t let time or distance come in between it.

One of the hardest parts about going away to college was being separated from my best friend, Julia. There were not enough phone calls, Facetimes, or text messages to make up for the fact that we couldn’t be together 24/7, like we normally are. Coming home felt like no time had passed – we were still as close as ever, not that I could ever, ever doubt that anything could come between us. Because with real friendship, nothing can ever come between it. You’ll realize who your friends are. They’re the friends who become family and soul sisters. The people you can tell anything to. They become your person, in Grey’s Anatomy terms. And nothing can come between that. It won’t be just like any friendship – when it’s your BFF soulmate, you’ll know. Cherish it. I do.

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7. July – Live despite your fears and what scares you to death.

My girl Taylor Swift preaches such incredible quotes and lyrics about life and love.  One of my favorites is, ““To me, Fearless is not the absense of fear. It’s not being completely unafraid. To me, Fearless is having fears. Fearless is having doubts. Lots of them. To me, Fearless is living in spite of those things that scare you to death.” On July 13, I went to a Taylor Swift concert with my friends Kate and Tori. Being there, for my second ever T. Swift concert, just put this quote more into aspects. Taylor faces love, heart break, and haters all the time. However, she lets no obstacle stop her in life because she is fearless. Everyone needs to be fearless. More importantly, everyone can be.

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8. August – Take the time out to visit true friends.

When I first moved to my town in the seventh grade, Sarah was my first best friend. Now, as sophomores in college, we are still best friends. Since then, Sarah has moved about an hour away. On top of that, I go to college about two hours away. So on average, we are away from each other by three hours. However, summer is the time when we can really see each other. Taking days off of work to visit Sarah was so worth it. They say friendship that lasts more than six years last forever, and we hit six years. I know Sarah and I will always be friends, especially since we have had plenty of long talks discussing our future weddings. In today’s day and age, we are always stressed and running from place to place. Take time out of the busy schedule to catch up with each other and visit each other. I am so thankful that Sarah and I can make our friendship work as we grow older. Take it from us- Friendly’s is a great place for BFF dates!

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9. September – Be a little bit devil, but a little bit angel.

Sing along with me, readers: THERE’S A…LITTLE BIT OF DEVIL IN HER ANGEL EYES. In September, I saw “Love and Theft” perform. Of course they performed their hit song, “Angel Eyes.” So be a little bit wild, but find the happy medium of the good girl. Make mistakes, because you will learn from them. So, have fun. Let your guard down. Take chances and talk to new people. Just be aware of the thin line that exists. Don’t cross it. Be a happy balance between a bit of a devil, and a bit of an angel.

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10. October: Halloween is the one day of the year you can be whatever you want to be, so seize the opportunity.

Halloween allows you to be whoever you want. Not everyday can I walk around as Tom Cruise from “Risky Business” (no matter how comfortable it may be) or a construction worker, like I did this year. In college, Halloween turns into a weekend, sometimes week long, event. Get dressed up. Be whatever you want. Nothing is off limits. Once your out of college, it won’t be socially acceptable to dress up. The office probably won’t want you to be walking around as “The Morning After,” will it?

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11. November: A little party never killed nobody.

In November, I had my “Great Gatsby” themed semi formal. From it, I learned to go out and have fun. A party is a night where you can throw all your cares to the wind and be carefree. Take a moment out of the stressful life to de-stress and have fun. More importantly, do it big. Dress up, do your makeup and hair, and take as many pictures. These are memories you will always want to remember. There’s always time tomorrow to study for that test on Monday. There always going to be  day for you to hangout in bed, but there won’t always be a themed party, or any party for that matter.

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12. December: No matter your age, holidays are the perfect time with family.

Family is the most important thing to me. My mom is one of my best friends and I text/call/Snapchat/Facetime my family members all the time. As much as I love school, it was incredible to be home for the holidays. Now that I am older, I realize how much the holidays are about catching up with your family and realizing how blessed you really are. Family is the greatest blessing you have. Talking about all our memories we have together and being able to see each other was amazing. When you’re little, you think of your family as a necessity – they feed you, give you a home, and put clothes on your back. Now, as an adult, I realize how family is much more important for the soul.

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Best of luck to you readers in the rest of your 2014!!

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