Twenty-one, Single, & Exactly How I Want It To Be

by sparkleandshinesami

During a recent dinner time conversation with my mom, we discussed dating, relationships, and friends of mine in serious relationships.

We then continued to discuss people I went to high school with that are engaged, married, or are having/have kids.

I’m not even close to any of these. Oh no, no, no. In the future – but not too near- I do plan on getting engaged, having my Cinderella themed wedding, and having kids.

But for now, I’m single- which is exactly what I want to be.

For right now, at 21 years old, I am choosing to be single. I am living my life by my rules, while I can. Life is what you make it- which is why I want my college years to be exactly how I want them to be.

I have so many opportunities presented to me at all times of the day. With these opportunities, I want to take them on with my own rules and my own perspective. If I want to go out to a club on a Saturday night, I’m going to. If I want to have a girls night, I will. I don’t have anyone else’s schedule to plan mine around. I don’t want to have to think before doing. I want to just live my life and live out my actions for me.

Right now, I am having the time of my life with my best friends – people who I know will be by my side in the future.

I am more focused on finding the women who will be standing next to me as my bridesmaids than I am the man standing next to me at the alter. I don’t want my kids to ask me about college and start my stories around “some boy” that no longer matters. I want them to be revolving around my friends, who they know and whose own kids mine will be friends with them.

I’m out, meeting new people. If you want to wine and dine me, I won’t say no. But at the end of the night, I am eating Dominos with my friends, talking about the night, then getting into our pajamas for a sleepover.

More importantly, I am learning how to be strong and independent. I can take care of myself. I can fix my own things when they break. I am working hard in all aspects of my life so I can succeed. I don’t need to depend on a man in my future. I am a strong woman who will not take a back seat to a man.

If it wasn’t for discovering myself and all that I accomplish now, by being single, I may never have had to figure it out.

This isn’t my pledge of swearing off boys – some of my very best friends are of the male gender, my future groomsmen.

This is my pledge as to why I’m putting more time and effort into me and my life. I’m young and I’m doing what’s best for me.

6Apr2015

My Monday Musts

by sparkleandshinesami

Hey readers!

I hope you had a great week. I’ve been a little M.I.A this past week (in case you didn’t know), but I am back now and have plenty of fun posts planned for this week!

But first, I’m going to back track myself a little bit and explain what would have been My Monday Musts from the following week….

Last Monday, I explained all about how I had turned twenty-fun and had been having the time of my life since. But on the 28th, my friend Alyssa and I had an open bar booked to celebrate. In sweet-sixteen fashion, we had our super sweet 21st open bar birthday bash. Check out some of the pictures from the fun, filled night with my best friends!

But now, birthday world has come to an end and it back to reality. Time for meetings, Res Life duty shifts, classes, homework, and everything in between.

All I know, is that I have so many exciting posts planned for this week. Stay tuned readers, keep sparkling, and just wait and see what is coming this week for Sparkle and Shine!

23Mar2015

My Monday Musts

by sparkleandshinesami

Happy Monday, readers!

Hope you all had a great weekend. I sure did – I celebrated my first weekend as being a twenty one year old! I have been waiting my whole life for this weekend.

To kick off the birth-week (more like birth-month, to be brutally honest), some of my best friends and I went to Hibachi on my actual birthday, the 15th. We celebrated with scorpion bowls, saki bombs, good laughs, and tons of delicious food:

Then on Friday, I celebrated my first true night out by going to my first bar with my big and her roommates! We went to Aunt Chilada’s, known as Aunchie’s for Quinnipiac Bobcats. We celebrated my birthday and the Saint Patrick’s Day holiday. There is nothing I love more than a good theme party, so that combined with my birthday and my first bar experience with my big – I was in H E A V E N.

Finally on Saturday, I celebrated in one of the best ways possible – with my Alpha Delta Pi sisters! We had our nautical themed formal that night, so I get to celebrate with all of my best friends. Thank you to my big, my little, my g-little, and all our dates for giving me the greatest first legal Saturday I could imagine!

Plus, this week I made my first liquor store purchase! I don’t know what I’m happier about – the fact that I was being a legal adult or just got a spray tan.

Don’t worry mom, I also did homework and went to class and all that jazz this week, too…

Now someone get MTV on the phone, because I will be continuing to rest up, especially my liver, for when my friend Alyssa and I celebrate our super sweet 21st birthday this weekend! We’re ready to paaaaaarty….